I have been asked what inspired me to write, It’s Your Life; Own It. That’s easy to answer. For years I have coached or counseled others, whether professionally or personally. I have taught young students and mature students , undergraduate and graduate. I have led people in government, in non-profits and in for-profit companies. One thing that has remained constant and has transcended age, gender, race or socio-economic status is the tendency of people, including me, to blame others for not having the life they dreamed of having.
I am sure you have experienced frustration, and maybe even anger, when things just did not work out as you had hoped. I saw that trait in my self when I did not get the promotions I thought I deserved. I had every excuse that anyone could think of as to why others kept me from moving forward. Year after year, I would blame someone else for why I didn’t get what I felt I deserved. One day I woke up. I said to myself, stop it! Whatever you want in life, go after it and stop blaming. If you get it, good, if you don’t, you tried. Just stop blaming your life’s situation on others. If you do, you not only draw negativity to yourself, but you will have given others power over you. It’s your life, not theirs. Own your choices; own your decisions; own your risks or your lack of taking risks. Whatever you decide to do, though, is all on you.
I experienced an epiphany that day and it dawned on me that it wasn’t just me blaming others for my life; it wasn’t just me making excuses. Heck, I had heard many people do the same. So, I decided it was time to tell others, what I told myself that day. That’s the story of how and why I was inspired to write this book. I hope you gain something from the experiences that are shared in it.