Freedom, Contentment, and Christ at Christmas

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Christmas has always been one of my favorite times of the year. There is something unmistakably special about this season. People seem lighter, more joyful, and more willing to extend kindness, even while navigating the stress of decorating, shopping, traveling, and trying to make the holiday feel meaningful and memorable. There is a shared warmth in the air, a collective pause from routine, and a desire to connect. I genuinely love that.

Yet as much as I love Christmas, I love Christ even more.

 

This season continually reminds me of the importance of keeping my focus centered on Him and on His will for my life. When I lose that focus, even with good intentions, I can slowly drift into subtle forms of bondage. Overextending myself. Saying yes too quickly. Trying to meet expectations that were never assigned by God. Measuring success by activity instead of alignment.

True freedom comes through contentment.

Contentment releases us from the pressure to perform, to impress, or to be seen by others. It frees us from the exhausting cycle of doing more simply to please people, many of whom may never fully understand or even notice the sacrifice being made. When our motivation shifts from obedience to approval, the joy of giving quietly turns into obligation, and obligation eventually leads to weariness.

Scripture reminds us of this truth with clarity and gentleness: “Godliness with contentment is great gain” (1 Timothy 6:6, NIV).

Christmas is not meant to be a season of depletion. It is meant to be a season of remembrance. Christ came to bring freedom, not burden. Peace, not pressure. Rest, not relentless striving.

There is nothing wrong with caring deeply for others or giving generously. In fact, those acts reflect the heart of Christ. But there is wisdom in knowing when to stop, when to rest, and when to say no. Boundaries are not unloving. They are often the very thing that preserves joy and sustains faith.

Sometimes the most faithful act we can offer during this season is restraint. Choosing simplicity. Choosing presence over perfection. Choosing obedience to God’s leading instead of responding to every external expectation.

This Christmas, my prayer is to remain anchored in contentment. To give freely without overextending. To serve joyfully without seeking validation. To celebrate deeply while remaining grounded in the truth that Christ alone is the reason for this season and the source of true freedom.

May we all find the courage to slow down, the wisdom to honor our limits, and the peace that comes from living unbound and centered on Him.

Blessings…

God Sees You: Finding Value in the Unnoticed

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I have been reading through the Book of Genesis, and lately my mind has been locked onto the twelve tribes. I memorized the names of the tribes when I was young, but recently something stirred in me. In my sleep, I could hear myself recalling the names of each tribe and tying them back to Leah and her maid, and to Rachel and hers. I intuitively knew that Rachel had only two sons, but something didn’t make sense to me: neither Joseph nor Benjamin produced the priestly line (the Levites) or the messianic line. Surely the priests or the Messiah would come through Rachel; right?

That question bothered me enough that I had to get up, open my Bible, and study it again.

As I read the scriptures, my heart kept returning to Leah and Rachel, and the more I delved into their stories, the more God began revealing something to me that I want to share with you.

Scripture tells us of Leah, a woman who lived in the shadow of her sister. She not only felt invisible; she felt unloved. Her husband Jacob adored Rachel. The world applauded Rachel. But heaven saw Leah.
“When the Lord saw that Leah was unloved, He opened her womb.” (Genesis 29:31)

When others turned away, God fixed His gaze upon her. When she felt unwanted, He gave her purpose. And through her lineage, the one no one celebrated, came the priestly line, the royal line, and ultimately the Redeemer Himself: Jesus Christ.

That is the miracle of being seen by God. He takes what others dismiss and calls it divine.
He turns quiet tears into generational blessing.

Life has a way of making even the strongest hearts feel invisible. We work hard, love deeply, and give faithfully , yet still find ourselves overlooked by those who seem to notice everyone else. But hear me clearly: God never overlooks you.

Maybe you’ve been faithfully sowing seeds of kindness at work.
Maybe you’ve been showing up for your family, supporting loved ones, or serving behind the scenes; and no one seems to notice.
Maybe you feel like your prayers have echoed unanswered for too long.

But God sees every unseen effort. “You have kept count of my tossings; put my tears in Your bottle. Are they not in Your book?” (Psalm 56:8). When you feel overlooked, remember this: you do not have to be someone’s first choice to be God’s perfect choice. His favor is not determined by human validation. The same God who saw Leah sees you, right there in the middle of your frustration, your faithfulness, and your fatigue. He is still writing your story, and He never misplaces a page.

So lift your head today. Walk with quiet confidence, knowing that being unseen by others has never meant being forgotten by God. You are seen. You are chosen. You are deeply loved.

The world may not know your name; but Heaven does.

From Ambition to Alignment

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I have spent most of my life chasing goals, setting them, striving for them, and doing everything in my power to achieve them. Ambition has always lived in me. It pushed me to work harder, dream bigger, and keep moving even when the road was long and steep. And by God’s grace, much of what I pursued, I achieved. But the older I get, the more I realize that ambition alone is not enough.

There is a difference between striving and surrendering, between self-direction and divine alignment. Jeremiah 10:23 says, “Lord, I know that people’s lives are not their own; it is not for them to direct their steps.” That scripture humbles me every time I read it because it reminds me that even with all my effort, intelligence, and determination, I am not truly in control. God is. And thank goodness for that.

When I look back on my journey, I see moments of victory that were clearly guided by His hand, opportunities that opened in ways I could have never orchestrated myself. But I also see the other moments, the ones that did not go according to plan, the disappointments that left me questioning my worth, the failures that bruised my ego, and the betrayals that broke my heart. I have experienced embarrassment, setbacks, and seasons that felt like detours from the life I was trying to build. With hindsight, I now know those detours were often redirections, God gently steering me back onto the path He had designed all along.

It is human nature to want to control outcomes. We make plans, set timelines, and map out where we think we should be. But if we are not careful, our ambition can become louder than God’s voice. And when that happens, we risk chasing success without substance, accomplishments that look good on paper but leave our spirits empty. True success is not measured by titles, wealth, or recognition. It is measured by obedience to God’s will and alignment with His purpose.

Over time, I have learned that disappointments do not define us. A failed plan does not mean a failed life. What matters most is how we respond, whether we allow defeat to stop us or propel us forward with greater wisdom. Some of the most transformative seasons of my life did not come from my victories but from my valleys. They taught me perseverance. They taught me humility. And most importantly, they taught me dependence, the kind that forces you to lift your eyes from your plan and fix them back on God’s.

Surrender does not mean we stop dreaming or working hard. It means we hold our plans loosely and trust God’s hands to shape them. It means acknowledging when we have tried to do things in our own strength and having the humility to say, “Father, forgive me. I need Your wisdom here.” It also means remembering to give Him glory in our successes, not just crying out when we fall, but praising Him when we rise.

The truth is, even when we are succeeding, we must be careful not to let pride replace gratitude. Ambition without humility can lead us away from God rather than closer to Him. So even when things are going well, maybe especially then, we need to pause, reflect, and acknowledge that “Every good and perfect gift comes from above” (James 1:17).

Now, as I look back over my life, I feel nothing but gratitude. I have lived a life that has been full, full of joy and pain, success and struggle, leaps forward and unexpected detours. If my story ended today, I would still say I have lived a good life. Not because I achieved everything I set out to do, but because God walked with me through it all, shaping me, stretching me, and realigning my ambition with His greater purpose.

So if you find yourself striving, pushing, and planning your way forward, take a breath and remember that you were never meant to direct your steps alone. Ambition may get you moving, but alignment will get you there. Let God lead. Surrender your plans. Trust His timing. And know that no failure, no disappointment, and no detour can derail the destiny He has written for you.

Stewardship: A Posture of the Heart

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Recently, my church has been on a series titled “Once Upon a Time.” We’ve been studying the parable of the shrewd servant in Luke 16. I won’t go into all the details of what we’ve covered, but it has made me think deeply about what God’s Word says about stewardship.

So often we connect stewardship only with money, but Scripture paints a much bigger picture. Stewardship is about how we handle everything God has placed in our care; our time, our talents, our resources, and even our relationships.

Peter wrote these words: “Each of you should use whatever gift you have received to serve others, as faithful stewards of God’s grace in its various forms” (1 Peter 4:10). That tells me that what I’ve been given, and what you’ve been given, was never meant to stop with us. It was meant to flow through us, to serve others and reflect God’s grace. One comment my pastor made really stayed with me: “I am not a CEO, I am a shepherd.” That’s the heart of stewardship; seeing ourselves as caretakers, not owners.

Jesus also reminded us of this responsibility in Luke 12:48: “From everyone who has been given much, much will be demanded.” It’s not a warning to frighten us, but an invitation to take seriously the opportunities God has placed in our hands. Whether we’ve been given little or much, God calls us to be faithful managers of it.

For many of us, stewardship shows up most clearly in how we handle our finances. It’s easy to feel pressure to keep up appearances, and before we know it, we can find ourselves in debt. If you’re carrying that burden, I want to encourage you: don’t try to fix it overnight. It wasn’t created overnight, and it won’t be solved that quickly either. Getting out of debt takes discipline and a steady heart. And it takes the guidance of the Holy Spirit, who gives us strength to stay the course when it feels hard.

Stewardship isn’t just about money, but how we manage our finances often shows the posture of our hearts. When we live within our means, when we give generously, and when we manage resources wisely, we show God that we trust Him to provide.

At the end of the day, stewardship is not just an action. And when we approach life this way, we discover that nothing entrusted to us is too small for God to use in extraordinary ways.

The God Who Loves, Forgives, and Restores

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The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases; His mercies never come to an end; they are new every morning; great is Your faithfulness.” ~Lamentations 3:22–23

Life has a way of pulling us into seasons of despair, moments when we feel weary, misunderstood, or overwhelmed. In those moments, it can be easy to forget that God’s faithfulness has never wavered. He remains constant, even when everything else feels uncertain.

God’s love for us is not conditional on how well we perform, how perfectly we respond, or even how faithfully we love Him in return. His love is steadfast. It meets us when we feel unworthy, when we don’t act “lovely,” and when our own patience or grace falls short.

How comforting it is to know that His love is not dependent on us but flows freely from His very nature. As the Psalmist declares, “The Lord is gracious and compassionate, slow to anger and rich in love” (Psalm 145:8).

And what about forgiveness? Often, forgiveness is something we find difficult to extend to others; or even to ourselves. Yet God forgives fully and completely. “If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness” (1 John 1:9). His forgiveness restores, redeems, and renews.

So when despair sets in, when love feels hard to give, or when forgiveness feels out of reach, we can rest in this truth: God does not treat us as our failures deserve. Instead, He loves us unconditionally, forgives us completely, and remains faithful even when we falter.

This is why we can say with confidence: despair may visit, but it will never have the last word. God’s faithfulness always does.

Closing Thought:
If you find yourself in despair today, remember this: you are loved with an everlasting love, forgiven with complete grace, and held by a God whose faithfulness never fails.

Through It All, I Reflect on God’s Faithfulness

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In moments of profound grief and reflection, I find myself leaning into the unwavering faithfulness of God. Life’s seasons often challenge us, stretching us in ways we could not anticipate—times of refining, recalibration, and silent reliance on His grace. Recently, I have walked through such a season. Some days have been marked by uncertainty, where clarity was elusive, and burdens felt especially heavy. Yet, amidst the unknown, God’s presence has remained steadfast and certain.

Time and again, I have witnessed His hand at work in circumstances beyond my control and in places I could not reach. As scripture reminds us, “The Lord will fight for you; you need only to be still” (Exodus 14:14). Even when I felt unseen, unheard, or uncertain, He has stood in the gap, offering His grace, protection, and peace. His love is unwavering.

At the same time, I have been strengthened and renewed through the blessings present in my personal life—celebrating meaningful milestones with family, exploring new places that awaken a sense of wonder, and being surrounded by faithful friends whose prayers and presence carry me through difficult times. These moments serve as sacred reminders that God’s goodness often sustains us in the midst of life’s trials.

I have come to understand that God’s benevolence is not dictated by circumstances. Psalm 34:19 declares, “Many are the afflictions of the righteous, but the Lord delivers him out of them all.” When the path is steep, He provides the strength we need to continue climbing.

And while challenges certainly arise, I stand firm on His promise in Isaiah 54:17: “No weapon formed against you shall prosper.” This does not mean life is without battles, but it reinforces that we serve a God who equips us to overcome them.

I ask myself—and invite you—to consider: what season are you facing right now? Are there moments in your life where you need to be reminded that God’s presence remains active, His protection unceasing, and His work behind the scenes ongoing? Perhaps now is a moment to pause and offer gratitude—not solely for victories, but also for the lessons learned within the valleys.

Be encouraged by the everlasting truth in Lamentations 3:22–23: “The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases; His mercies never come to an end; they are new every morning; great is Your faithfulness.” Cling to this truth, for God’s faithfulness endures, here and now, even in our most vulnerable moments.

May we all find comfort and strength in His unchanging love and unwavering grace

Overcoming Offenses: A Path to Healing in Relationships

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One of the blessings—and sometimes the challenges—of life is that if we live long enough, we’re bound to encounter offenses. Someone might say something untrue, or say something true that we simply don’t like or that rubs us the wrong way. It could be a careless word from someone or a dismissive attitude that sets us off. And when we feel misunderstood or treated insensitively, our reactions can become overwhelming.

Honestly, I believe that being offended itself isn’t the biggest problem. The real challenge is when we hold onto those offenses, refusing to let them go. That’s when we hurt ourselves the most. As believers, we have a divine guide for every area of our lives—including how we handle offenses.

Ephesians 4:31-32 (NIV) gives us clear instruction:
“Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.”

Recently, I observed a situation that had been developing over time. An individual received feedback from colleagues regarding their communication style. The feedback highlighted concerns about tone and approach, including comments related to interactions with others.

This is not the first time I have discussed responses and attitudes with this individual. Previously, it was noted that responses to feedback could sometimes be defensive or withdrawn. The individual often maintains their own perspective, which can impact team dynamics.

In response to recent feedback, the individual chose to share their perspective openly. Their intentions appeared to be genuine, and they expressed a willingness to clarify their position. This situation underscores the importance of how perceptions and responses can influence working relationships and the overall team environment.

As believers, we are called to humility and self-examination. Whether we are right or wrong, we should be mindful of how our words and actions impact others. When someone points out an offense, let’s remember Ephesians 4:31-32—get rid of bitterness, rage, anger, slander, and malice. Instead, be kind, compassionate, and forgiving—just as Christ forgave us.

If we truly value unity and collaboration, our behaviors must reflect our words. Let’s choose humility, address offenses quickly, and demonstrate Christ’s love through our responses. When we do, we foster environments of healing, growth, and trust—becoming true reflections of His grace.

The Gift of Long-Suffering

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Life is not always easy. In fact, it rarely is. It’s a beautiful, complicated tapestry woven with threads of joy and pain, celebration and sorrow, triumph and setback. And yet, as I sit with all of it-the good and the hard-I’m reminded of a word that often gets overlooked: Long-suffering.

The Bible speaks of long-suffering not as weakness, but as strength. In Galatians 5:22, it is listed among the Fruits of the Spirit: “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, long-suffering, gentleness, goodness, faith…” (KJV). Other translations use patience, but I’ve come to love the word long-suffering-because it tells the truth. It acknowledges that sometimes we suffer, and sometimes we suffer long. But through the Spirit, we do so with grace.

I recently heard someone say, “If you truly appreciate life, you have to appreciate all of it.” That means not just the mountaintop moments, but also the valleys-the disappointments, the losses, the betrayals. And when I look back, I see it clearly: I’ve been so deeply blessed. I’ve lived a life that far exceeded anything I dreamed of as a child. But that same life has brought me sickness, death, heartbreak, and setbacks I never saw coming. Still, I wouldn’t trade it.

Long-suffering has taught me how to be still when everything inside me wants to fight or flee. It’s taught me how to love people who are hard to love, and how to trust God when I don’t understand His ways. It’s stretched my faith, deepened my compassion, and reminded me that even in the pain, God is present.

Romans 5:3-4 says it best: “We glory in tribulations also: knowing that tribulation worketh patience; and patience, experience; and experience, hope.” Long-suffering doesn’t just help us survive-it makes room for hope to take root.

So if you’re in a hard season right now, take heart. The suffering isn’t the whole story. It’s a chapter-yes, even a long one-but not the end. And through it all, you are being shaped, strengthened, and prepared for even greater joy.

That is the gift of long-suffering.

Finding Confidence Through Betrayal and Faith

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Losing confidence is such a human characteristic. Yet, we are shocked when the most confident of us, lose it. As I sit here and write this blog, I can’t help but see parallels to Holy Week. It is a time that encapsulates both betrayal and redemption. There are moments in life when the weight of fear can settle heavily on our hearts. This includes fear of failure, rejection, and even betrayal. It causes us to second-guess our worth and abilities. We often find ourselves spiraling into self-doubt. It’s a place where the mind plays cruel tricks. The mind whispers lies that erode our confidence. This echoes the story of Judas Iscariot, who betrayed Jesus for thirty pieces of silver. His act of betrayal devastated trust within the close circle of disciples. It also revealed the human struggle with insecurity. Furthermore, it showed the desperate need for acceptance.

I have experienced betrayal, not just once, but several times throughout my life. Betrayal is not something we easily get over. In fact, it’s a time when we feel abandoned. We feel as if we are alone in our suffering. We are paralyzed by the fear of what others think.

Psalm 55 reminds us of the pain we can experience by betrayal. It mirrors the feelings of inadequacy that can overwhelm us when we face rejection. Yet, it is precisely in these dark tunnels of despair that Christ calls us back to His light. Through His sacrifice, the cross stands as an enduring symbol of hope. It assures us that our worth is found not in the opinions of others. Instead, it is found in the unchanging love of God. As Philippians 4:13 declares, “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me,” we must remember one important truth. We don’t have to navigate our insecurities alone. We are empowered by His strength, so we are never alone.

Reflecting on Jesus’ response to Judas is particularly illuminating. Even in the act of betrayal, Christ addressed him as “friend” (Luke 22:48), showcasing a grace that transcends human emotions. This is a poignant reminder. Our identity is not diminished by the failures or judgments of others. Instead, it is defined by the love that God has for us. As I ponder these themes, I deeply resonate with 2 Timothy 1:7. It states, “For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.” This offers reassurance that we do not have to stay paralyzed by fear or the shame of perceived failures. 

As we walk through this Holy Week, we learn to embrace confidence. It arises from our relationship with Christ. The journey can be filled with challenges. There are moments of betrayal and the haunting specter of doubt. By surrendering our fears to God, we can uncover a strength that is not our own. Remember, confidence is rooted in the knowledge that we are loved, worthy, and never alone. We can rise above our fears. We anchor ourselves in faith. The path to renewed confidence lies in the steadfast love of our Savior. In Christ, we find our true identity and strength. This empowers us to face betrayal and rejection with hope. We have renewed resolve.

God’s Constant Work in Our Lives

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In our daily lives, it can often feel as though we are surrounded by chaos and uncertainty. Events unfold that seem to disrupt our progress, and the schemes of others can challenge our peace of mind. Nevertheless, it is essential to remember that God is always at work in the background. He orchestrates events in ways that we may not instantly perceive. His presence is both a comfort and a guiding force, reminding us that we are never alone in our struggles.

Each morning, we are met with the promise of God’s mercies. Lamentations 3:22-23 reminds us: “The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases; His mercies never come to an end; they are new every morning; great is your faithfulness.” This scripture emphasizes that no matter the trials we face, His love and grace are always there. Even when we endure setbacks, His love and grace stay. It reminds us that the difficulties of yesterday do not define our today or tomorrow. This fresh start, often overlooked, invites us to trust in God’s unwavering attention to our lives. He is continuously working things out for our good, weaving together the complexities of our journey with divine purpose.

Reflecting on my own experiences, I remember the obstacles I faced. I aspired to move into management 30 years ago. Many of my peers seemed to effortlessly work their way up the corporate ladder. I realized I needed a degree to be considered for leadership roles. The journey seemed daunting, filled with uncertainty and setbacks. Yet, God opened a significant door by introducing me to a college trainee program—a pathway I could confidently walk through. This opportunity was a testament to God’s provision. It affirmed that He was aware of my struggles. He was guiding me toward my goals.

Another defining moment was during my pursuit of a doctoral degree. The challenges I encountered, particularly from some committee members, felt overwhelming at times. Their critiques and doubts threatened my confidence, and I often found myself contemplating giving up. Yet, in those moments of despair, I leaned into my faith and sought God’s guidance. He reminded me that perseverance is a vital part of growth. I pushed through the obstacles and remained steadfast. As a result, I managed to finish my degree. I also emerged stronger and more resilient.

It’s easy to become discouraged by obstacles and adversities. These challenges arise from the schemes of others, just as I experienced in my journey. Yet, in such moments, we must anchor ourselves in the truth that God’s plans override all human intentions. Individuals pursue their own agendas. Sometimes they act with ill intent. Nonetheless, God has a broader vision for our lives that is rooted in love and wisdom. His plans are far greater than anything we could conceive, beckoning us to dream bigger and hope more fully.

Trusting in God’s providence means acknowledging that His timing does not always align with our desires. There will be moments when we find ourselves waiting or enduring situations that challenge our faith. It is in these times that we often experience the profound depth of God’s faithfulness. Hebrews 11:1 reminds us, “Now faith is the assurance of things hoped for, the conviction of things not seen.” Each challenge becomes an opportunity for growth, shaping us into the individuals He intends us to be.

In reflection, the assurance of God’s continuous work invites us to cultivate a posture of trust. We are called to lean into His understanding. We must seek His guidance. We should rest in the knowledge that He sees the bigger picture. Even as we navigate through the various circumstances of life, we can find peace. We are assured that His love is a constant force working on our behalf. Romans 8:28 encourages us by stating, “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.” Embracing this truth encourages us to move ahead with confidence. We are assured that we are being lovingly guided toward a future filled with promise.

In the end, let us hold tightly to the reality that God is always at work. He is tirelessly weaving His plans in the background of our lives. As we awaken each day, let us embrace His new mercies. We should trust in the incredible journey that He has laid out for us. This journey is free from the limitations of human schemes. With faith in His ultimate goodness, we can approach each day with hope. We know that our future is secure in His loving hands. As 2 Corinthians 5:7 reminds us, “For we walk by faith, not by sight.” This scripture helps us remember that trusting in God’s unseen plans leads us to a deeper relationship with Him. This trust also guides us to a brighter path ahead.