Like others, I am bothered whenI hear things like “that person doesn’t like you” or “she has a problem with you.” Look, Whatever! Yes, I will admit it, it bothers me. I have learned to push back when someone tells me that someone feel that way about me. I push back when I have felt the animosity from a person first hand also.
You see we all have someone who do not like us. Wow, you thought everyone you met like you? Well, they don’t. What a revelation, but it is true. The most popular people have folks that find something wrong with them. The most unpopular do too. What makes the world go round is to recognize early if you can that we are all different and we may not like the same things nor can stomach some of the people we have to interact with. That’s just reality and it’s okay. My problem is with my friends and pseudo-friends. I love you but….let me tell you a couple of things. You probably think you are doing me a favor by making sure I know that someone does not like me. I get it. However, please do me a favor. Keep it to yourself.
That’s right, keep it to yourself. You are not helping the situation at all and if it bothers me to hear, I can imagine how it might destroy someone who is not as confident as I am.
You may think that you are just saying something either to help me (or to be mean to me pretending to help) but don’t. My life is full, filled with happiness and joy and on a positive trajectory. I am winning. I don’t want to be brought into a negative space. Honestly, I don’t believe that is your intention at all; at least I hope not. But that’s what happens when hurtful words are used even when those words are no intended to be used as such.
Look, even the best people who are positive and optimistic can be brought down, albeit for a little while, with those comments or opinions you are passing on. Now let me ask you something. Do you feel good about yourself when you pass on that “stuff?” I bet not.
Okay, so maybe you didn’t know this. Soooooo now you know. Also know this, “Haters gonna hate.” That’s just a fact of life. I have always believed and stated when a person is focused on me, they probably want to be just like me. Of course the hater will say that’s not true. But to all my haters, yes it is. I can’t say that I blame you though. If I were you, I would want to be just like me too!